Legal Question in Family Law in Utah

Visitation

My husbands ex wife sent him a letter telling him that supposedly the kids hate coming down and that they have a hard time after they get back from visitation with him. His six yr old daughter is having major problems in school along with school work and his 13 yr old son is flunking she recently remarried this June moved them in with a guy they did not know and she told him in this letter as well that he is the 100 percent cause of why they are flunking school and why his 6 yr old has her other problem if you need me to elaborate I would later. The kids always say they never tell their mom that they hate it down here. the 6 yr old cries when she has to go home and says she hates her step dad and wants to live with us. My husband called the kids and told them that where they supposedly hate coming down her because that is what their mom keeps saying and that he is the reason they are doing so poor in school and because he is the reason for his daughters problem he told them that maybe they should stay with their mom for a while cause he loved them too much to put them through this was this smart what should he do? she is constantly fighting on visits as it is they live now about 300 miles away. We are in a mess I am sorry


Asked on 12/04/07, 3:17 am

1 Answer from Attorneys
Alvin Lundgren Alvin R. Lundgren, L.C.

Re: Visitation

The children are being used as a vehicle for their mom to retaliate against your husband. The LAST thing your husband should do is to not see his children. They MUST have time with him so they know he loves them. They do not understand that he abandons them because he loves them. Your husband needs to deal with his ex. If possible, I suggest that they enroll in a High Conflict Parenting Class (which is taught in SLC and other areas) which sometimes helps parents after divorce create a cooperative parenting plan. If not possible, then they should go to counseling and/or mediation to make some new rules for how they interact with the children. The poor school performance of the children reflects the stress under which they are operating.

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Answered on 12/04/07, 11:05 am


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