Legal Question in Family Law in Virginia

Bi-State Adoption Question

Background: I am active duty US military, and met my wife and four step-kids (now 10-15 yrs) from TN about 4 1/2 yrs ago, when I was legally separated, and she was also separated (no legal documents). After our divorces were finalized, we married in mid-1999. Her divorce was essentially an enullment, as we discovered the ''husband'' was still legally married to another person, which rendered her marriage to him void. All four kids were born during her period of ''marriage'' to that man. Three of the kids have his name on their birth certificates, one does not. We now live in VA, and I am looking for the best option(s) to legally adopt all four children.

My wife's relationship with this person was abusive, and as such she does not wish any restitution from him. Is there a route to accomplish these adoptions with little/no contact with the biological father? What State's law will we fall under, TN, VA, or possibly NY (my legal State of residence)? Bottom line - what are our best option(s)?

Thank you!


Asked on 1/21/03, 7:24 am

3 Answers from Attorneys

Patrick Stiehm Stiehm Law Office

Re: Bi-State Adoption Question

I agree with the comments in the two answers already posted. On a practical level, since you are in the military, your JAG may be able to point you in the right direction and help cut down on the time the lawyer you hire has to spend moving this forward. In addition to speeding things up it may save you a bit in fees.

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Answered on 1/23/03, 10:05 am
Wayne Comer Wayne E. Comer, Esquire

Re: Bi-State Adoption Question

I will only attempt to state the first question I would ask but there are many others.

What exactly has been the relationship of these "infants" to the biological father? Does he vitit them, contact them, support them, etc.?

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Answered on 1/21/03, 11:04 am
Michael Hendrickson Law Office Michael E. Hendrickson

Re: Bi-State Adoption Question

An adoption proceeding, whether in the Commonwealth of Virginia or elsewhere will

always require that the biological parent(s)of the

children who are the subject of the adoption be

informed and either their informed consent

to the adoption obtained or proper notice must

be given to them regarding their right to

contest the adoption. If the whereabouts of

the parent(s)is not known, a diligent search

for him or them must be undertaken to locate

them, and, if not successful, a notice posted

at the courthouse.

If the children are residents of Virginia, the

adoption action would be filed here.

Regarding your reference to the "annulment"

of your wife's previous marriage, this matter

requires a ruling from the court and not mere

supposition on your part as to whether her prior

marriage was actually annuled.

I would advise that you consult with an attorney

knowledgeable in family law matters before you

proceed any further.

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Answered on 1/21/03, 12:37 pm


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