Legal Question in Family Law in Virginia

Re: child custody

You ask the wrong question. The question shouldn't be "is it legal" but should be "is it smart?"

Arranged custody and child support agreements are all well and good but they are not binding on the Court. Custody and support are always reviewable by the Court who can change anything and everything in the child's best interests. In addition, the Court will appoint a Guardian for the children who would give recommendations of their own. The agreement sounds nice but in reality can be challanged and changed in Court at any time.

Good luck.

Re: child custody

No, FYI, "people [don't] practice it" (what you've described), and it amounts, legally speaking, to nothing more than nonsense (which, unfortunately, people do seem to regularly practice a fair amount of.)

Re: child custody

To expand upon my previous answer a little further, children are not chattels, meaning items of personal property, and, therefore, cannot be treated as such in a prenuptial agreement which can be used to control prior to a marriage the disposition of such property.

Each child is obviously a unique person

with a variety of personal needs and

assets which must be carefully considered and evaluated in the event that parents have to separate, and this must be done at the time of the separation rather than years before(as you fiance is proposing) in order to assure that to the extent possible the best interests of that particular child are best served.