Legal Question in Family Law in Virginia

Re: Child support & visitation

Visitation rights are in no way contingent upon nor linked in any way to the issue of child support.

The changes to the visitation schedule which you're proposing should be discussed with an attorney knowledgeable in Virginia family law issues and who is also familar with the local court(s) which have jurisdiction over these matters.

Re: Child support & visitation

The court will not allow him to stop support payments because of disagreements over visitation. He could stop, but a court would pull him up short for having done so.

On the issue of the kids' extracurricular activities interfering with his visitation, that's going to happen, and it can be worked out. One way is to ask a court to work it out; another and better way is to discuss it openly between the parents, perhaps with input from the kids; if you and he can't deal with it alone, it's generally a good idea to seek the assistance of a court approved mediator, who will help facilitate the discussions but will not make the decisions for you. A mutually agreed upon mediator will save both of you money and is less likely to polarize the parents.

I am not blowing my own horn; I'm not a court approved mediator. I'm just a lawyer who shared custody of a child with his mother some years ago.