Legal Question in Family Law in Virginia

Re: Can she legally do this....?

You need to consult with an attorney to learn all of your rights and responsibilities in divorce. The state bar association has a lawyer referral program for a nominal fee that would give you 1/2 hr. with an attorney. Some of the local, county bar associations in VA also have referral programs that will refer you to a lawyer for a 1/2 hr. consultation.

In general, it doesn't matter who paid for what DURING the marriage. As long as the money used was from the money that either party was earning during the marriage, the property acquired (whether real or personal property) will be considered marital. If the furniture was your wife's before the marriage or if she paid for it with money that she was given by an outside source (e.g. an inheritance, not money she earned), the furniture will be considered marital. If you can afford to buy out your wife's share of the equity in the house, you could keep it and not have to sell it. If your wife is earning at a higher rate of earnings than you will be receiving on disability, she may owe you spousal support. Also, bank accounts, investments, pensions, retirement benefits, debt, etc. are also subject to division.