Legal Question in Family Law in Virginia
Special Circumstance Separation
Since the beginning of our marriage I have been a stay at home mom. With my husband being the sole provider of income the finances are tight. However, upon the decision to end our marriage I am now going back to work. Neither of us have the funds to move out of our current residence. I would like the separation date to be effective immidiately, but am not sure if the time spent in the same residence will count towards the total of 12 months needed in order to be granted a divorce. Thank you for you time.
3 Answers from Attorneys
Re: Special Circumstance Separation
Don't share space, don't have sex, don't take meals together, don't do his laundry, don't go to parties together and, most important, DO tell you families, your friends and perhaps your co-workers that you are separated, even though living under the same roof. Have family and friends visit you at home from time to time to see for themselves you are living separate and apart under the same roof.
Re: Special Circumstance Separation
You can still live together under the same roof but you must act as though the two of you are roommates and not husband and wife. Separate your finances, sleep in separate rooms (no sex), don't do anything that even resembles a marriage. Also, have witnesses (friends and family members) observe this distant relationship so that they can testify that although you were living in the same house, the two of you were not living as husband and wife. I know this seems artificial but this is taken very seriously by the courts.
Re: Special Circumstance Separation
S20.91 of the VA Code, subsection 9(a) specifies
as grounds (for divorce) that the husband and wife live apart without cohabitation uninterrupted for a period of 12 months.
Living apart is not conceptually compatible with
the scenario that you propose, although I suppose
it might be where there are two completely separate living units within a single structure.