Legal Question in Family Law in Virginia

Re: XHusband thinks he can change court order

He owes you every penny he has shorted you over the years; he can't make unilateral changes in a court order.

First you have to locate him, and that shouldn't be too difficult. He's been making some kind of payments for a number of years -- by check? If so, you could reopen the case and subpoena bank records. You also could try to track him down through his driver's license, or you could use a private detective as a expensive last resort.

Once you locate him, you ask the court which ordered the payments to order him to come before a judge and tell why he should not be held in contempt of court for not obeying the court's order; the penalties for contempt include incarceration.

You could also try going through the Division of Child Support Enforcement to get the arrearages, but that's a long and often frustrating course.