Legal Question in Civil Litigation in Virginia
Hi,
I am having a very big problem. I recently had a falling out with one of my friends and since then he has been going around my former university and telling people that I physically abuse my girlfriend. He told one of our mutual friends this who gave the information to us. We were both in shock obviously. i tried to contact him to tell him to stop or I would pursue legal action but he never responded and blocked me on facebook.
I wanted the lies to stop so i contacted the college that he currently attends (that i left last year) and asked what i should do. they said they couldnt do anything but let him know that we contacted the school with the issue and advise him to stop. they also advise i take legal action if the allegations continue.
I am just worried that he will contact a lawyer and sue me for trying to get him to lose his job (he works for the college as well.) they have the email and phone call where i said he was lying about me, but all i have as far as proof is a text message from a friend and word of mouth from another friend.
this situation is so childish its ridiculous, and im hoping it ends.but i was just wondering if he any grounds to sue me for slander libel, and i contacted the college about it?
I know this is very vague but your input would help me calm my nerves.
1 Answer from Attorneys
Hi there--ouch, how miserable!
Your question basically is whether you and this nasty fellow have defamation claims against each other. It works the same for each of you: there has to be a statement, it has to be defamatory (to me his statements against you sound "defamatory per se" under Va. law), it has to be published, and it has to have caused some sort of demonstrable harm. The statements don't have to be made with actual malice--that's only for public figures, which I assume he isn't. The "substantial truth" of the statement is always a defense, so it sounds like you're on pretty solid ground if he should sue you--even if they fire him, which seems to me unlikely anyway since this will look to most employers like a private dispute unrelated to his job performance. I hope that offers you some reassurance.
The other question is whether you've got all the elements of a defamation claim against him. Sounds like we can't tell whether the misery has stopped, but we'd have to be able to prove all the elements I mentioned, then be able to demonstrate and measure the harm, which'll be hard. Also, keep in mind that any remedy we get won't necessarily undo all the reputational damage he's done; we can get a court order to stop him from doing it any more, maybe make him send the order and a written apology to people he's defamed you to, and make him pay money. That may not be satisfying enough to justify a huge investment of time and money of your own.
If you want to bat it around some more, you can write me at [email protected], or we can have a low-cost in-person or phone consult. Meanwhile, here's a quick primer on Va. defamation law for you: http://www.dmlp.org/legal-guide/virginia-defamation-law.
Best wishes, hang in there, and feel free to send me other clients if not you. --Steve Pershing.