Legal Question in Civil Litigation in Virginia

Re: I have no idea what to do

There are three different questions you may be asking: (1) is it ok to see the girl; (2) is it ok to get married; and (3) is it ok to have sex?

(1) unless and until someone gets a court order telling you to stay away, it's legal for you to see her. The ethical and moral question you've got to answer is whether you should do so. Just because you can do a thing doesn't mean you ought to do it.

(2) The minimum age of consent to marry in Virginia is 16 with parents' consent, 18 without parents' consent.

(3) The age of consent for purposes of being charged with a crime for having sex with underaged persons is 15; that is to say, you can't be convicted of statutory rape if the girl is at least 15. Of course, it's illegal to take a photograph of her in a cute pose that includes the "genital area", even if she has her clothes on, until she's 18. (Wonder how NBC gets away with the gymnastics, tennis, and swimming coverage, eh?)

My conclusion about what you ought to do (as opposed to what you can do): go have a chat with her parents and find out what their objection is about. Don't sneak around. A girl who'll evade her parents' legitimate authority will cheat on you, eventually, too. Very often our parents know us better than we know ourselves, and can use experience to size up potential mates better than we know. Often that's all intuitive stuff that the parents may not even be able to articulate. If the girl is that anxious to get away from her parents but won't give you a good idea why, you might ask yourself, what is it in your own background that makes you love her so. If you persuade the parents you're willing to listen to them, their respect for you will go up a notch or two, I think, and if it doesn't, you may have to ask yourself whether you need the kind of trouble that girl will give you later (because of the way her parents treated her).

It sounds to me like you already know what the right thing to do is, and you want someone to talk you out of it. Do what you know is right, now, or you'll really pay for the mistake later.