Legal Question in Wills and Trusts in Virginia

This is always a very difficult situation. A lot of things are done by family (here ex-family) that violates the rules after people die. The rules are often trampled.

Technically, it is stealing and you can warn the exwife. You can report the theft to the police.

Probably the best thing to do is to immediately qualify as the Personal Representative (executor) for your father's estate. The closest relative (divorce cancels that for the wife) WHO LIVES IN VIRGINIA should qualify as the "executor" (personal representative) as quickly as possible.

The executor has the legal authority to control everything in your father's estate and can speak for him.

You should also try to create an inventory as quickly as possible of everythign that you know about. The exeucftor will have to file an inventory anyway. So you may as well start now. And this may help idnetify anythign that the exwife has walked off with illegally.