Legal Question in Family Law in Washington

I am not sure how your husband could have 51% custody or you could have 49% custody, and "full custody" is a term that means nothing under Washington law and custody has only a limited meaning (for purposes of some other legal benefits and rights).

What does "I really dont get any phone calls or email from him." mean, it could mean you get none at all or you don't get as many as you want, or maybe something else.

What matters is: What does your parenting plan say you have for residential time and communications time and manner? Law is fact driven, that is the relevant facts control outcomes under the law. You have provided no relevant information.