Legal Question in Family Law in India
hi im banupriya and my problem is that mine is a love marriage and i forced my parents for getting married to him and finally i got married to him but once i got married he quit his job and they were financially in a bad state so i was forced to work and look after. My husband is very lazy and does not want to work in any company and rather would like to do his own business which was not possible and he used to torture me by telling me to ask my parents for property and money and my inlaws too will always tell me y i chose him as husband coz before marriage also he did nothing for us and they too mentally tortured in many ways and they would always tel me to leave him and go my parents place, but i stood there because i forced my parents n they accepted it and again i dint want to hurt them in ne manner.Its been 4 years and till now he is not earning and want ed to do business. his parents also tel me not to have a baby they hate me the time i came to their house they wanted a daughter in law who should be at home and do stuffs for them and not work but i had to work coz my husband was not working. his parents always tel him to stay separately and not with them but he neva gives up his parents and now im not able to stay with them at all both my husband and in laws nor he is supporting me nor they so im very confused and told him to look for a separate house for us but he is not agreeing for it and doesnt want to leave his parents for any case. I don know wat to do? I can live with him only if he come separately coz its very difficult to live them and only then even he wil become a responsible husband.
plz help me in how to convince my husband to come separately!! his parents also tel me not to have a baby they hate me the time i came to their house they wanted a daughter in law who should be at home and do stuffs for them and not work but i had to work coz my husband was not working. his parents always tel him to stay separately and not with them but he neva gives up his parents and now im not able to stay with them at all both my husband and in laws nor he is supporting me nor they so im very confused and told him to look for a separate house for us but he is not agreeing for it and doesnt want to leave his parents for any case. I don know wat to do? I can live with him only if he come separately coz its very difficult to live them and only then even he wil become a responsible husband.
plz help me in how to convince my husband to come separately!!
2 Answers from Attorneys
the problem is not your inlaws but your husband who doesnt want to take on his responsibilities.Once you live separately you will be burdened with paying the rents and the grocery bills Reevaluate your situation.go for counselling and yes it is good that you dont have kids. first let the family settle down then plan the kids.
Banupriya,
Your facts are not complete for an appropriate opinion. You have not mentioned about your parents / family, and your relationship with them.
You have landed yourself in this trouble knowing well that the man was not working even before marriage. At this stage, the only way for you to lead a happy life would possibly be - stay away from your husband and his family. Either you stay alone or stay with your parents, if they live at an affordable distance from your work place.
You may watch the situation for some time. If your husband come to terms and start working, you may allow him to live with you; We may review your situation later.
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