Legal Question in Family Law in North Carolina

Depends on how big of a jerk you want to be and / or the reason for the failure. If you want to be a decent parent who understands crap happens, you might want to consider not holding the other parent to the 'letter of the law' and simply communicate with the other parent and ask what's up. If you wanna be a jerk, you can say - you missed the deadline, no summer visitation for you! Of course, if the other parent's reason for the failure to request the dates is they don't care or they were high on crack and forgot, you might be justified in saying no summer visitation for you. Very rarely are custody issues like this complex or require anything more than the golden rule to answer. Just be a decent parent and encourage liberal visitation unless you have a good reason not too. Missing some supposed 'set in stone' deadline in some rigid custody agreement that proports to regulate and schedule something as dynamic as child visitation is never a good reason in and of itself to deny visitation.