Legal Question in Family Law in Washington

I am not sure what the question is, but I can tell you generally about a QDRO. It is an order that divides certain assets, usually a retirement account. Some are produced by the company, and others the company will want the individuals to provide the QDRO for review by them. A more specific, clear question will probably get you a more specific answer.

I may not be following along with your query very well, however, as I understand it, there are two accounts: a Retirement Savings Plan (RSP) and a 401(k) plan. You apparently received 1/3 of the RSP and none of the 401(k).

I gather you have a problem with how much you were awarded under the current QDRO that was entered. The company attorney was wrong to tell you that you can just send him a QDRO and he'll see what he can do. Remember, before he can do anything, the QDRO needs to be signed by a judge or court commissioner and if your ex will not sign it, you need to note a motion to present he QDRO in conformity with the decree of dissolution. If the ex fails to show or if he responds and the judge overrules his objections to your proposed QDRO, then the judge will sign and then you can send it to the company to divide the account.

Make sure to ask the company if they have a template QDRO you can work with, otherwise, if you write your own, the plan administrator may reject the QDRO and you'll have to start all over again.